Cheating in our society is an epidemic disease that causes pain in our lives, our safety and the living conditions of people.
Cheaters are not discouraged because no one stands up to be called upon to account for their actions. We tolerated and disregarded these wrongs and we don’t care about them so cheaters are continuing cheating (sana magkaroon ng totoong pangil ang batas natin).
In Philippines, politicians are fighting for power and are using the innocent masses to acquire it (sana matoto na tayo). The one who are paying the price for this are the poor people and the country. Kawawa na naman si Juan Dela Cruz. Sana walang dayaang mangyari sa darating na eleksiyon– kung sakaling 'di maiwasan nawa'y konting bawas at makonsensha. Kaya lang pinapatay nila si Konsensha para walang humadlang na gawin ang kinalulugdang gawain. Maliban na lamang kung makikialam si Bro (‘wag lang Siyang maging busy).
Other reasons why people cheat is because of poverty - no jobs and no food in the table; other cheat to seek sexual adventure and excitements; other cheat because they lack of dedications and commitments in their professions and still other cheat just for fun.
In our children cheating is also distinct. In school students cheat to get high grades during examinations. Cheating here cannot be stopped but we can help to reduce it and it should start at home so that when they grow up they would become responsible, honest and god-fearing citizen.
When the children come home from school, the parents should find time to check in their notebooks, offer helps to do their assignments, to make their school projects and encourage them to become studious – by doing these, these children would feel that their parents are caring for them.
Pushing to our children to excel in all academic performances causes depression among our children and teenagers. Depression would diminish our children’ ability to think actively and weakens their appetite for food; they would become not active in school and their studies; they would cheat during examinations to get high grades because if they failed their parents would punish them.
Sa ibang banda hindi rin ito maipagkakaila – many children cheat because they see their parents (themselves) doing it (cheating). Minsan nalaala ko na ang Nestle noon ay nagpalabas ng commercial that goes something like "Kung anong mali ang nakikita ng bata, na palaging ginagawa ng mga magulang niya, ay nagiging tama sa kaniyang mga mata."
Pushing also drive children to mingle bad company of friends, who are also experiencing the same problems. Parents should know that “bad company corrupts good character of a child” and the worse thing is that, this company of friends would encourage these children to engage them to use marijuana and other prohibited drugs. With these drugs they could find peace and temporary relief and forget their studies. Eventually these children would become drug addicts and would commit crimes in the future against society such as to cheat.
However, children should understand that parents want only the best for them and that is why they push them to excel in academic performance. Pushing should not distract them. In case they feel depressed, they should treat that feeling positively. They should realize that depression is normal feeling. The trick is to learn to manage it.
Teachers in school should treat their students like their own children. They should be patient to teach their students’ lessons with dedications and commitments. They should tell their students about the bad effects of cheating in their lives.
But what is of more importance is communication between parents and children. Parents should always communicate with their children as often as possible. Often communication can relieve their children’s emotional distress. Parents should find time to discuss with them all matters and to hear their side. Parents should understand that teenage is a delicate time in a child’s life. Children need guidance, understanding, compassion and love.
Thank you for your time.
Paul Pruel
Click My World is Your World Too